3 Ways To Love Yourself As A Mom

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If you are a mother, this is the day chosen for other people to show you honor for the countless ways you pour love into the lives of your children, and those that you treat as your kids. You do this in immeasurable ways, and in most cases without restrictions or limitations.
But what about you, mom? Irrespective of whether it is Mother’s Day on the calendar or not, do you take time to appreciate and honor yourself in this exact same way?
You should!
Practicing love for yourself keeps you”full.” This allows you to effectively have something worthy to pour in to your children.
As a twin mother myself, I encourage you, Mother, to utilize the following three ways to love yourself:
Think about what YOU need. Perhaps you’re the”Supermom” who’s ALWAYS going above and beyond for her kids, perhaps even over compensating with actions so her child does not somehow feel he or she is”missing out” if mother is not doing these activities. Even though you may have great intentions and think this is what being a”good mother” is all about, the backbreaking effort may not be as necessary or as appreciated as you believe. Rather than putting so much strain on yourself trying to keep unreasonably high expectations, think about building a mutual relationship with your child(ren). If you ask your child(ren) what they would prefer, you may be surprised to find out that, more often than not, they really don’t care as much about a lot of those activities that you break your neck to make happen for them as they do about spending more quality time with you. They can see when you’re suffering, and believe me, Mom, they really don’t need to see you suffer. They wish to support you too.
Making intentional time to spend with your child helps them see (not just hear) they are important to you. After all, aren’t we ultimately attempting to communicate their importance to us through all our efforts? They already know that you are too busy; they see that. But what is all this busyness worth if your child(ren) don’t know or believe they are more important to you than your to-do list? And how much would your stress levels reduce with half of these activities taken off of your calendar and replaced with special dates for you and your child(ren) both to anticipate? The sky’s the limit in what activity you can do with your child(ren), but the important thing is that your attempts of love will be noticed and will prove fruitful in enriching you both.
Take back control of YOUR schedule. I encourage you to intentionally incorporate activities to your calendar that you actually look forward to doing. There’s a gap between juggling schedules around your family members’ events and planning around a time of comfort. The difference: there’s less stress and more fun for you in comfort! Take control back from the rest of the things that are trying to treat you, and schedule activities that benefit you. Take some time for yourself. And, when you come up with an idea just on your own, don’t just put it on your calendar; show your loved ones so that they, too, can HONOR it. Much like you would honor a doctor’s appointment, soccer game, dance recital, or mathematics contest by moving things around to accommodate it, do the exact same for what you like. Your family won’t only learn the value of mother having time for herself because you honor it, but they’ll also find the distinction of a happy mom and a relaxed mom who has more to give to the family as a result.
Doing the things which you truly enjoy doing will keep you full and let you pour more pleasure and happiness in your family’s life, since you really have it for yourself.

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